The Paradox-x Method takes us to a journey through subconscious world where we have an opportunity, a new point of choice, to face and relive suppressed emotions, memories and traumas and resolve them resulting in significant changes in our life and reality. It also sets out the tools to integrate seemingly irreconcilable opposites in our personalities resulting from traumatic experiences.
Through practice, Paradox-x proved to be a powerful Method for overcoming deep traumas and programming manifested in emotional, physical and psychological imbalances and disorders. The practitioners and clients have experienced deep transformations in their most challenging life areas. To name a few, the clients have reported experiencing more inner coherence and feelings of being complete and authentic; more joy, love and ease in relationships with family, friends, colleagues or other significant people in their lives; overcoming deeply embedded fears and anxieties; transformation of feelings of powerlessness and inability to progress in life into ability to bravely create new opportunities; feeling of inner power and ability to direct life in the desired direction.
The Method stems out of decades of explorations and practice of philosophical and psychological frameworks, quantum physics principles and contemporary therapeutic modalities.
Paradox-x® – Method for introspection and integration
Prior to understanding the process itself, we need to understand key horizontal and vertical elements of Paradox-x Method (please see Figure 1, Figure 2 and Figure 3). The horizontal elements include polarities, experienced trauma and desire for transformation, while the vertical elements include higher self, embodiment and integrated, core self.
If we look into horizontal elements (Figure 2), we observe that the two polarities have both, different and common elements. As mentioned earlier, the polarities are caused by traumatic events, usually experienced in the childhood, and the root trauma, consequently, can be accessed through both polarities. Practically, both polarities share deepest pain or emotion linking to the trauma. Also, both polarities have common desire for overcoming difficult emotions and trauma, however they do not agree on the ways on how to achieve the desire. This leads to a state of stuckness, immobility and powerlessness and can be observed in our outer reality in repeating of unwanted situations.
Figure 1. Horizontal and vertical elements of Paradox-x
Figure 2. Horizontal elements of Paradox-x
If we look into vertical elements, we see elements of higher self, physical embodiment and integrated, core self. The divided polarities in the horizontal scheme are not connected to the core and higher self and the aim of Paradox-x Method is to integrate them to the core self. Each integration of polarities leads to strengthening of core self, and stronger presence of higher self in the physical embodiment (please see Figure 3).
In order to understand the elements better, a short case study of client’s experience is described: A child was in an unsafe situation where mother and father were fighting and mother emotionally collapsed. The child goes through deep emotional trauma and chooses to become tough and strong because how mother behaved, in child’s view, was not good neither for her nor for the child.
Figure 3.
Vertical elements of Paradox-x
Figure 4.
Integration of polarities into core self
Consequently, most of her life, the child expresses herself as being strong and avoids expression of gentleness and vulnerability. Vulnerable part, however, since being suppressed, lives inside in pain and is expressed in situations were she looses control, or when she falls in love, or when she is caught off guard. Each time she expresses vulnerability, she is usually hurt again (since that is what she learned was happening looking at mom and dad). The hurt part is suppressed again. Strong part, on the other hand, takes up emotional burden of everyone around, never shows any weakness, and usually is lonely. It feels pain but it does not express it.
The Method provides introspection into both parts (polarities), strong and vulnerable and into trauma itself. The deepest pain that both aspects feel is usually the same, but the ways they behave and deal with the pain is different. After introspection into polarities, we go into initial trauma and attempt to broaden understanding of the situation and to see the ways not to break ourselves in contrasting aspects but rather find an option that overcomes the challenge. In the Method we go back and forth from trauma to contrasting aspects until the understanding of new option is reached. Typically, the person realizes it is possible to combine paradoxical polarities, to be both, strong and vulnerable. They become more open and true to itself and others. This creates emotional relief and strengthens inner, core being. Inner, core being becomes larger, more stable, brave, authentic, joyful with each integration of divided aspects (the list of integrated values, emotions and virtues is not exhaustive and depends upon the specific polarities and trauma in question).
Finally, as we can see in the Figure 4, the core self is enlarged by the purified elements of polarities, integrated by our choice.
