This Paradox-x workshop focuses on three different states

• Denial – when we do not want or are not able to see reality and truth
• Pretending – we see the truth, but we ignore it because that way is easier or it better suits us
• Vulnerability – we are open for our and reality of others

We often deny facts and emotions that would, if we admitted them, call for a change in our life. And we may not want to change or we may not think we are capable of change. For example, our partner is cheating on us, and if we opened up to seeing that fact, we would face a risk of splitting with our partner. Another example – we may deny the fact that we are hurting others by interfering in their lives. The subconscious fear behind may be rooted in a belief that the only way for us to have a connection is to impose ourselves on others.
Pretending seems to be inherent in the socialization process. As teenagers, if not earlier, we learnt how to play cool, how not to show excitement or admiration to others, how to pretend everything is perfect in our life while we are actually emotionally falling apart.
On the other hand, vulnerability is a state of openness and availability. Yes, in its less healthy form, vulnerability is seen as a weakness and open door to being hurt. However, here we want to focus on nurturing vulnerability that enables us to show who we are and to be available to others, while maintaining our stability. There is no hidden agenda – we are vulnerable not in order to get sympathy from others, but to express freely who we are and what we feel. We are vulnerable without shame or fear.
We all have blind spots and deny and pretend to protect ourselves. It is our intention that through Paradox-x process we discover the reasons behind denial and pretending and to build stable vulnerability.