Which Authority Decides if I Am Deserving?

When we ponder the question, “Do I deserve…?” we embark on a journey into the very essence of our beliefs and self-worth. It’s crucial to pause and contemplate who holds the ultimate authority in determining whether we are deserving or not. Is it our parents, the government, our workplace superiors, our partner, our circle of friends, the vast universe, or the divine presence we refer to as God? Or have we come to realize that the belief of not deserving something has taken root within us, obstructing our ability to receive it?

Equally significant is our relationship with this perceived authority figure. Do we feel powerless in their presence? Is this authority imposing rigid criteria or does it seem unpredictable in its decisions? These dynamics in our perception of authority play a key role in our self-esteem and self-perception.

If we believe that the sense of our deserving is judged and decided outside us, we come into a powerless position. It is of high importance to get our power back, and understand that the feeling of non-deserving comes from inside. This brings us power back and enables us to take steps towards creating the sense of self-worth.

Preconditions for Deserving

Another pivotal question to consider is the notion of preconditions for deserving. What do we believe we must do or become in order to be deemed deserving of something? Do we assume that we must always be “good,” obedient, endlessly hardworking, unfailingly kind, or strong?

While the law of cause and effect governs the natural chain of events, our personal beliefs about deserving and entitlement colour our perception of this causality. If we hold beliefs that we are fundamentally undeserving or, conversely, entitled to everything without effort, we might find ourselves disconnected from a truthful and accurate understanding of how life’s events unfold.

Cultivating a balanced and healthy sense of deserving is a profound journey, enriched by the transformative steps within the Paradox-x Method. This process commences with compassionate introspection, designed to unveil the causes of feelings of undeservingness, which might be concealed within an individual’s subconscious traumatic memories, rooted in genetic predispositions, or even stemming from collective traumas.

The Paradox-x Method’s introspection techniques empower us to delve into their past and identify and acknowledge the underlying causes. We can begin to release the burdens that have distorted our perception of self-worth. Additionally, polarity work within the Paradox-x Method offers a valuable tool to address extreme polarities of feeling entirely undeserving or excessively entitled. These polarities are, typically, interchangeable where one is often more dominant. Through this process, we learn to navigate and transform these opposing beliefs into a healthy sense of self-worth. By understanding the dynamics of these polarities, we can find a middle ground that neither negates our legitimate needs and aspirations nor inflates us into entitlement. This is an integration stage characterised by the harmonious blending of the purified traits of the opposing polarities. By integrating these transformed traits into one’s core identity, we can cultivate a more balanced, healthy, and empowering sense of worthiness.